How to focus ? (micro blog)

Firstly, I’m just not the right person to write on this topic. But I selected this as I myself wanted to figure out-how to focus? and we will try to get an answer through this blog.

The reason for asking this question has to be, not being able to pay attention. Why? Why can’t you pay attention? Look for the reason and crush the reason. Is it because of something that didn’t go right or because of a person. Whatever it is. Just crush the reason.

How do you crush the reason? If it’s a situation you can’t help improve, forget it. If it’s a person, BLOCK that person from your fucking life. Trust me you’ll do yourself and that person a favour.

After you crush the reason for not being able to focus. You’ll start getting more efficient in whatever you do. You’ll start being more happy.

To focus, you need to have the people that you deem right for yourself. Anyone other than that is just a weight.

Get the right people in your life and throw the wrong ones out. Caring for someone else’s feeling is not the right thing to do.

Be a selfish person. Be a hypocrite. Don’t even bother for what the other person might feel on being blocked.

Just walk around claiming to be the most truth oriented person around .

Just focus on your own shit. Focus on the shit that matters. Use the other f word for everything that doesn’t.

I’m myself trying to put this to practice but it’s difficult for me. For I’m a person who just cannot hurt anyone else. A big downside in many’s opinion. But that’s my strength.

I can do with being inefficient for days but not with being the reason of someone’s pain.

-ChoubeySahab

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The topic of this blog is a dot. There is a reason as to why I selected this topic. A dot has so much meaning into it. It seems so small yet it carries so much meaning.

Many see a dot as a full-stop or the end. While I use dot differently. I use a dot to start a conversation. My closest friends know this, whenever I want to talk to them, I just text a dot. Then they are fierce at me as to what does this dot mean. Does it mean I’m missing them? Or does it mean I’m really angry with them? It actually means different things at different times.

This small dot helps me express myself without actually expressing myself. I’m an introvert. Opening up is difficult for me. So a dot really helps. I express all my emotions in one dot.

My friends usually reply with another dot and then we exchange laughing emojis and there you have a conversation started. That’s all I wanted- A conversation.

A dot is not always a full-stop. It can even be used to start conversations. It can be used to express without actually expressing.

A dot is a world in it’s ownself. It’s like a star in the night sky. If you see it at a glance, it’s almost insignificant. You might even ignore it. But when try to see it through a telescope, you realise that stars like dots are soooo big and meaningful.

So the next time you receive a dot

Don’t ask “What?”

As it means lot

To be put in words and not a dot

-ChoubeySahab

Why can’t I divorce my brother? (micro blog)

The original topic suggested was “why is divorce only for a couple, what can’t I divorce a family member (say my brother)”. I must confess, researching for this micro blog was so much fun that it thrice had me laughing my skin out.

The topic suggested was actually very genuine. Why is it that only a couple can get legally separated. Why can’t one legally stop being related to the people whom he/she doesn’t like at all. But as it turns out. There are legal ways of getting out of any relationship even a bro & sis relationship.

Yes you can divorce your sibling.

There are 2 main ways to do this:-

1. Legal (long process but let’s just call it legal for simplicity)

2. Get your sibling adopted

The legal process is a bit long, you can read about it on Google. While the 2nd option is pretty straight forward. Just get your sibling adopted.

This may seem a bit funny but people actually do get divorced to there siblings. They do this when they don’t have a child to inherit their life earnings but hate their siblings so much that they don’t want to give them a penny. So they get them divorced.

To my surprise, there are even dedicated helplines for reporting domestic violence from siblings. Although I read this about some other country. Not really sure if India has such a helpline. But if it does, then man I need this number.

Punching me around midnight, while I’m already asleep, is domestic violence, isn’t it? Waking me up by tickling in the inside of my nose using a cloth is domestic violence.

If India had/has a helpline to report this kinda violence. Then I desperately need it. Even while I’m trying to write this, she snatched my phone twice just for fun.

But I can’t divorce her as:

1. My parents won’t let me take the legal route (too lengthy and expensive)

2. She won’t find an adoptor. Even my parents picked her up from nowhere out of pure sympathy.

3. I love her

-ChoubeySahab

How to hold myself accountable? (micro blog)

This is a very sought after question. Who doesn’t want to know the art of holding ones ownself accountable.

But learning to do this is actually very difficult. We are programmed to perform as per given instructions. First from parents then school/college teachers then office bosses. These are the people who hold us accountable all the time.

Didn’t do your homework, “keep standing” is what your teacher says. Didn’t score good in exams, “look at Sharma ji ka ladka” is what your parents say. Didn’t achieve your monthly job target, “beep beep beep” is what your boss says.

Never ever did anyone teach us to hold ourselves accountable. But nevermind, I got a few tips from Google. Here they are:

1. Write down your goals and cross them off as they get completed.

2. Give yourself a treat when you achieve a significant target.

3. Feel guilty when you don’t complete a task on time.

These are the 3 main tips I could dig out of Google. They seem quite simple but are hell difficult in practice.

I’m myself not very good at holding myself accountable but I try my best.

They trained me all my life to be accountable to someone else and now I realise that being accountable to myself is the ultimate thing.

-ChoubeySahab

It’s never too early or too late (micro blog)

When I tell people that I’m working on my own thing. They are like- Whaaat! This is your age to go to college.

I very frequently meet people who tell me that I’m too early in the process. They tell me to go to a good college then take a good job, get some experience then maybe start working on my own thing.

But none of these people know how I struggled in school. None of them know how ill-equipped and outdated our education system is to train me for what I want to be.

So I find no wrong in jumping straight into it. I know this will be difficult but going through 3 years of college would be even more difficult for me. If you don’t get why I’m saying this, go read my blogs at medium.com/choubeysahab . Those blogs were written during school time.

Being too early in the process is very much fine according to me.

Now coming to-being too late, this I can relate to my father.

I have many business ideas in my head. But when I tell him to pursue one of those. Age becomes a barrier for him. He feels starting a business in 40s is weird.

I try to tell him that people like Warren Buffett made most of their wealth past their 50s.

So as it turns out, being too early or late feels weird. But once you jump into it, it’ll all work out well.

Just forget about being early or late, do what your heart says. Trust me you’ll always be on time.

-ChoubeySahab

Century of perspectives (100th micro blog)

This day has finally come. We’ve done 100 micro blogs. What’s even more important is that we’ve done it in 100 days.

I still can’t believe not missing a single day. But I can’t take all the credit. This would not have been possible without you. If you didn’t consistently read and rate my blogs then forget 100, we would not even complete 50.

There have been so many of you who actively rated my blogs, suggested topics to write on and some even motivated me to write when I was in no mood to write a single word. I owe so much to you all.

Every blog I write is an attempt to pay back what you’ve given me-Your time.

Through this blog I just want to show how much I’m grateful for all the time you’ve spent reading my blogs. I hope I was worth all that time and will try to always be worth it in the future.

100 is yet another milestone, there are many more to come. But let’s celebrate this like we reached our destination as we don’t have a destination. We are here for these milestones.

How do we celebrate?- You ask

Celebrate by spreading. Try and get more people to read and rate these blogs. You can do this by giving a shoutout to follow this Instagram handle or simply share my blog with your friends in DMs. Tell your friends (even verbally) that there’s this person who’s written 100 blogs in 100 days and get them to follow me.

Help me make this day special. Make me feel like it’s my birthday today.

Anything that you do for me today would mean the world to me.

So what are we waiting for, lets celebrate. Go congratulate me for completing 100 blogs on your story. Let’s take these blogs to more people.

-ChoubeySahab

Why is it cool to speak in English and listen to English songs? (micro blog)

You know that guy can’t even speak English in one flow but see how successful he is. Eh, what does being successful have in connection with speaking a foreign language.

Broo, did you listen to this new song? No, I listen to Bollywood only. What?! Bollywood, your taste is bad and that’s so sad.

Why is it that we Indians are so attracted/influenced by a foreign language. While our own language hindi has a long history of literature. Hindi was used to write heart touching shayaris, poems and what not.

Then what made us glorify English as a language. Short answer, the English themselves. Yes, they ruled over us for a long period of time and during this period, the people with authority were people speaking in English.

This instilled it in the minds of us Indians that speaking in English makes us superior to others. This mindset stayed even after independence.

After independence, we called this westernization but essentially this was just Indians with lack of self esteem looking up to British who seemed confident with what they did.

Humans have a tendency to mimic what seems superior to them and Indians are no different.

So the primary and fundamental reason for English being considered cool is

“Angrez to chle gye, angrezi chord gye”

-ChoubeySahab

Books or movies

This actually depends on person to person. Some prefer watching movies while throwing pop corn into their mouth. While others can fix their eyes onto a book for hours.

Watching movies has it’s own fun. You can just sit in a comfy seat and enjoy the scenes. Your brain doesn’t have to do much to understand the story.

But in the case of reading a book. Constant attention is required. If you don’t understand a line then you have to re-read it to get the story. Reading a book requires more effort than watching a movie. It asks for constant brain functioning.

But there is one big advantage that a book has over a movie. That is the power of imagination.

There is no limit to imagination. You can think of all the characters of a story while reading. Movies limit your imagination.

If you really want to know, what works for you then read a book like Martian and then watch the movie Martian.

Then see which hit you better the beautiful scenes in the movie or your imagination while reading.

I bet it’ll be your imagination

-ChoubeySahab

What is entrepreneurship? (micro blog)

A lot of my friends ask me this. What is it like to be an entrepreneur? Is it similar to being a businessman?

No an entrepreneur is different from a businessman. Although both carry out business operations but entrepreneurship has problem solving and innovation at its core. While a person carrying out traditional business is businessman. There isn’t any hardcore difference between the 2 and many use these terms interchangeably.

Now coming on to, what is it like to be an entrepreneur?

With so many startups coming up from Flipkart to Paytm. The craze around entrepreneurship in India is at its peak. Everyone wants to take a plunge at entrepreneurship. Being an entrepreneur is the new cool.

But it seems cool only from outside. It is hell difficult in practice. If you are an entrepreneur then:

1. First, you’ve to decide what you’ve to do (unlike a job where your boss tells you what to do)

2. Then you have to do what you planned to do with full conviction (even though the chances of failure are high)

3. There’s noone holding you accountable but yourself (noone will curse you for not doing good. You’ll have to abuse yourself)

4. You have to set your own deadlines

5. No security of month end cheque (unlike a job)

So considering all the above points and many more. Entrepreneurship is one of the most difficult professions one can choose.

Entrepreneurship is not for everyone. You need a certain level of mental and emotional toughness to be an entrepreneur.

For an entrepreneur, failure is the only constant. Rest everything varies.

-ChoubeySahab

Should I look older than my age or vice versa? (micro blog)

The answer to this varies from person to person. People often tell me that I look older than my age. They tell me that I don’t look like a teenager. I look much older than that.

I’m more than happy with this because :

1. Very few people actually know my age (which is mostly school mates)

2. They don’t listen to me like they would to a teenager. They lend me a curious ear giving me the opportunity to make a serious point for myself.

I go to several business conferences where I’m mostly the youngest one present but noone really gets to know. I talk and connect to people as if I’m a grown up like them. They treat me with all seriousness. That’s exactly what I want.

So I’m more than happy looking more than my age. But I’ve have noticed that most girls like to look under their age. Probably they never want anyone to expect maturity out of them (just saying).

Looking under your age can help when you are in your late 30s. So that employers don’t reject you for those newly formed wrinkles and sunken eyes.

I personally prefer to look older than my age now and will do everything to younger than my age at 50.

But anyway, age is just a number. It’s your mental age that really matters.

How old do you think you are mentally?

-ChoubeySahab