Regret drives me (micro blog)

Nobody wants to regret but as I’ve found out- regretting has good consequences.

Like if I sleep more than my normal sleep schedule on someday. Then I’m filled with regret the moment I wake up. But I’ve noticed that I go straight to the bathroom on these days without wasting any time. After completing my daily chores, I get straight onto my agenda for the day without procastinating a bit.

So when I look at it at the end of the day, I realise that I got more done on this day of excess sleep because I had a regret of not holding onto my sleep schedule.

This feeling of regret/guilt drives me for the rest of the day and at the end of which I’m pretty happy having done more than normal work.

Regretting didn’t turn out to be as bad as I thought it to be.

I don’t regret regretting anymore.

-ChoubeySahab

Taking the hard calls (micro blog)

So the past few days have not been much productive to me. This is because I stopped challenging my beliefs, I stopped venturing out of my comfort zone.

When I looked closely at it. I realised that it’s been quite a while that I’ve taken any hard calls to get myself going. So I took some but as I told you they are extremely hard to take and execute.

The world constantly forces me to go back on these hard calls. Forget the world, I myself don’t want to take these calls. They are difficult, really difficult.

But I believe that it is these hard choices that’ll determine where I end up.

I may be wrong on this but I used the words “I believe”. So if you’ve been reading my blogs regularly, you’d get the point.

-ChoubeySahab

Freedom is a sin (micro blog)

It’s been quite a while that I’ve been trying to understand this line and today I think I just may have figured it out.

How can freedom be a sin? We all want freedom. None wants to be questioned by anyone.

None wants to be limited by any rules or stereotypes, then how can freedom be a sin.

Freedom is a sin because it gives you a sense of freehand in whatever you do. Freedom doesn’t make you think more than once before doing anything.

Imagine if killing people was not a crime according to law. Then don’t you think the number of murders would be 10x. Doesn’t this mean that freedom is, in itself, a sin.

Imagine noone forcing you to go to school. Would you go to school everyday without fail. I would not have.

We want freedom because we think that the present is limiting.

We want more autonomy over everything.

But the lack of freedom stops a lot of bad things from happening.

Hence, in a way, it can be said that freedom is a sin in itself.

-ChoubeySahab

Belief vs logic (micro blog)

I see a lot of people confuse these 2.

Finding logic behind beliefs is illogical.

Atheists ask believers of God to give them logic to believe in God. There is no need for any logic to believe in anything.

You are free to believe/not believe in something regardless of any logic.

Like, I believe that Apple (the company) is doomed and will not exist after 10 years. Now this might sound highly illogical to you but I believe in it and I don’t need to justify it.

I believe the world would never face energy crisis. Again something I don’t need to justify.

Believing is a lot different than giving logic.

Believing is what your instincts say while logic is what your brain says.

Another example

I believe only my pillow is my pillow and if you give me some other pillow saying it would serve the same purpose then you’ve got logic but this is against my belief which doesn’t need to be justified.

So belief is more powerful than logic.

I believe in believing without logic.

-ChoubeySahab

I love the uncertainty (micro blog)

Any business or initiative operating on any scale requires investment. This investment is nor very big neither very small. But if I compare to the admission fee of a college then it is much smaller (atleast in my case).

I think a zillion times before spending on any aspect of my work. This is so because the money isn’t mine and putting my parents’ money into something risky doesn’t seem right.

My parents would have happily taken a loan to get me into a good private college (cuz I anyway wouldn’t get a govt). This is because they know that at end of college, our child would get a degree (validation) and would be eligible for safe jobs.

Which is somewhat understandable as every investor seeks a good ROI (return on investment).

So now I don’t have any investors neither do I have the experience. But experience comes only by doing.

The only 2 things that I have now are:

1. An internet connection (my parents pay for which)

2. Myself

These 2 need to mingle in a such an incredible way to make me stand from 0 to 1.

This will be hell difficult, but fun.

I may succeed but this is so uncertain.

But I love the uncertainty.

-ChoubeySahab

Women are disadvantaged (micro blog)

Let’s confront this for once and for all. Women face a lot more challenges and obstacles than men do.

Women have to through a lot of biological, societal strains.

It is the women who leaves her house after marriage, not men. They have to make continuous efforts to adjust not just to the new surroundings but the new challenges that she’ll have to face now after marriage.

A women’s career has several stoppages/obstacles- 1st at the time of marriage then at the time of a child.

It is the women who are held responsible for what the children do.

While on the other hand..

Men have quite an easy life. They don’t have to face m/any societal norms. They can confidently walk around without feeling insecure. They don’t have to leave their loved ones after marriage. They “generally” are not much involved in a child’s upbringing.

Their career doesn’t face any hiccups. They are not expected to know how to cook. I wish my mother forced me to learn how to cook, as I feel it is something everyone should know.

Mothers “generally” don’t make their boys do the daily work of the house. I don’t even know how to effectively use a broom.

My sis knew more than i do at my age

I really feel that the 2 genders are still so wide apart and equality is a faaar fetched dream

-ChoubeySahab

Satisfaction is the key (micro blog)

Do you realise that abundance leads to low price. If onion is produced in large quantity then it’s price goes down. Same can be observed for engineers in India.

Let’s take an example to understand this better:

Say you’ve 100 clothes to choose from, there’s a high probability that you’ll struggle to choose the one to wear (ask my sis).

But a person like me who owns a total of 3 jeans of different colors, has the choice easy and values each of his possessions more in comparison to one who has 100.

To my sis,Myntra is what instagram is to me. She always thinks that she has less. While I am pretty satisfied with what I have.

When I look at it closely, I find that the only thing she lacks is satisfaction. However many new clothes she may buy, she’ll feel the need for more the very next month.

So I conclude that even though I have less than what she has but I’m content and satisfied.

I’m leading a better life than her cuz I have the element of satisfaction.

*I hope she doesn’t read this.*

-ChoubeySahab

Love doesn’t hold you back (micro blog)

This is a misconception I myself have had that love holds one back from achieving his/her goals.

I always believed that being emotionally attached to a person-say your family members limits one in some way or the other.

But this turns out to be nothing more than a misconception. Love or affection can only throttle you to achieve better things. It has the power to change the person that you are for the better.

Thinking of it as a limitation is totally your problem. None of your loved ones want to limit you in any way.

Rather these are the people whom you could think of when you’ve fallen to get back up again and fight.

Being loved gives me a sense of belongingness. This makes me feel that there are people who’ll back me regardless of the situation.

Your goals are to be sought after by you not the ones who love you.

They can surely help you go through the difficulties you face along the way.

But it is you who’ll have to go after your dreams and the only thing that can limit you is your ownself.

-ChoubeySahab

Your attention costs money (micro blog)

Yesterday I went to a supermarket with my father. There was a man who was salesperson for a new tea company. He offered tea to my father and he accepted the offer.

But little did my father know that by accepting the tea, he essentially gave his valuable attention in exchange for tea.

Now that he has tea in his hand, he is left with no option but to listen to the salesperson. He obviously can’t just walk around the supermarket sipping tea.

I observed that now that he had finished his tea, he was still listening to the salesperson as he felt indebted.

And guess what we ended up buying tea of an unknown brand.

So you see, the free tea was the bait and once you go for it- you are trapped.

Even an average salesperson would make a sale once you’ve fallen for this bait.

Never accept things for free. Nothing in this world comes without pay.

“Free” is just another bait, don’t be a mouse.

-ChoubeySahab

Generation gap and respect (micro blog)

So generation gap is a well known reason for the conflicts between parents and their children.

This is because the experiences our parents had are very different to what we are experiencing right now.

This leads to different mindsets and perceptions.

When we are young, we accept that yes our parents know more than us and this keeps the relation healthy. But as we grow older, we start feeling that we know enough and don’t need any interference from our parents.

This is the time when complications start in the parent-child relation.

But how do we tackle this or prevent this from happening to any of us.

Afterall we all love our parents

So the fix is:

Respecting their opinion and trying to respectfully put your point forward.

Why respectfully when they are wrong?

Cuz they corrected you when you were wrong.

So respect and control are the key to happy parent-child relation.

Do you follow this?

Or lemme ask

How often do you shout at your parents?

Most of you would think-what kind of question is that but go ask your parents, they’ll tell you.

-ChoubeySahab